Nice and Simple
You may or may not have noticed my absence from the airwaves on Friday. My grandmother passed away and I was attending her funeral.
My grandma never liked it when people fussed over her. Her dying wish was that we did not have a funeral for her. Just a simple service at the side of her grave.
I’ve been to a few funerals and have had the uncomfortable experience of having to stand in line at two visitations, accepting awkward condolences from people I hadn’t seen in years.
I like grandma’s way better. Those who wished to convey their sympathies did so with a card or a phone call to the house, sparing us the exhausting experience of holding visitation for two days. My friends even sent a nice plant to my parents house for me and it cheered up considerably.
Now some people may say it’s rude to hold a service for only immediate family. Maybe they are right. But when a family is grieving the loss of a loved one, sometimes, they just want to be left alone.
The service for grandma was lovely. The minister said some kind words about her, prayed and then we played her favourite song. It was a healing experience that left us all feeling closer together.
Kate