How To Tell If A Guy Is Whipped
Askmen.com has compiled a list of ways to tell if a guy is whipped. Here are just a few examples:
- going for a beer requires permission
- she makes decisions for you
- you go home when she’s ready
- your friends don’t even bother trying to make weekend plans with you
One I was surprised to see wasn’t on the list is “you now pee sitting down”. Don’t laugh - it happens! Why would you put up with that? I guess it’s a self-esteem issue, just like it is for women with controlling boyfriends.
What would you add to the list? Do you have any anecdotes about buddies who are whipped? Maybe you were once whipped, but you snapped out of it. Have your say by clicking on the No Comments/Comments link at the bottom. Today’s Jack Nation bonus code is WHIPPED. It’s valid until May 10th.
May 8th, 2008 at 3:34 pm
Hold my Purse
Carly’s Note: Oh, come on - that’s just being helpful.
May 8th, 2008 at 4:00 pm
I don’t consider myself a “whipper” but over the last few years I have come out of my coma to realize how controlling my husband actually is. When I get a Saturday off, he rushes me along in the morning to “let’s go out”. I get ready, get in the car, we get to the top of the street and then he says “okay which way am I going now?”. G-e-e-z!! For the urgency that we have to get out, it seems he would have some plans. I have to make the plans apparently as I’m getting ready. So, I decide I’ll get a few chores done, which usually involves shopping. So he follows me into the stores, hovers over every move I make, and asks about everything I stop and look at - “What do we need that for?” It’s usually something to improve the house that we are trying to sell, or a good price on a food item - 2 sons, I do the math. I have actually turned around and SCREAMED at him in the Mall - “Go look around the mall and I’ll meet you in an hour!” I guess it appears that he is the poor defenseless whipped one, but I see it the other way around. I’m just at the end of my rope when he does this. I used to be a nice timid person, but I guess being walked all over changes that dynamic.
Carly’s Note: Sounds like you might want to do your shopping on your own and then make plans to spend quality time with him in the afternoon or evening.
May 8th, 2008 at 10:24 pm
Here’s what else I’d add to this list:
She asks you to buy feminine hygiene products for her.
She makes you cook dinner and clean up afterwards with no promise of sex later.
You need to call her in advance if you’re bringing friends over.
Carly’s Note: Louie! I hope you’re not telling me it’s a woman’s responsibility to cook and clean up after a man unless she’s putting out later that night.
May 9th, 2008 at 6:34 am
Hi Carly,
That list is a bit scary because i do recognize some things i used to do when i was still married so yeah i was “whipped”.
I do admit that my friends would not ask us to socialize with them on a regular basis because my ex was very particular about whom she liked or disliked.
Don’t you feel though that there has to be a balance between spending quality time as a couple but still socializing with your old friends too? Have you ever had an ex who was controlling, needy or jealous?
One of the most “whipped” guys i know is my brother-in-law. he’s been married to my sister for over 30 years and she just has to flash him a dirty look and he jumps to attention. I think once their kids finish university he’s outta there.
Anyways i am glad to say that i have more confidence and self-esteem now and am not only enjoying dating again but also knowing and getting exactly what i want in a relationship now too.
Have a great weekend Carly and don’t forget Mother’s Day.
Carly’s Note: Sounds like you’re in a good place. I absolutely agree about finding a balance betweem couple time, time with other couples, and time with your friends that doesn’t involve your partner. A little independence is healthy and keeps your relationship fresh. As for Mother’s Day, my mom and grandmother are out-of-province, so my cards were in the mail last week. I will definitely follow up with a phone call on Sunday, though.
May 9th, 2008 at 7:34 am
You would be at home watching the seventh game of the cup finals, if her cat mittens did not have a majour hair ball incident and have to go to the vet at how much an hour :S
Carly’s Note: Hmm, hypothetically speaking, of course.
May 9th, 2008 at 10:35 am
I notice that nobody wants to comment Carly. I suppose that speaks volumes.
Personally I think the best controller of all is the alcoholic. Just think… living with one, you get accused of saying things that you’ve never even thought of and regardless of what you do or say, you always end up being in the wrong anyway.
So the question is… do you stop being a wimp and just walk away, or do you show compassion? I can assure you; sometimes it takes more strength to be a wimp, than not be.
Funny isn’t it… but you never know when you might need a wimp.
Carly’s Note: I can’t speak to your experience, but I think it does come to a point where - for your own sanity - you need to insist that the other person seek help or you’re going to leave. It’s important to have compassion and to support your partner, yes, but you shouldn’t have to live with abuse.
May 9th, 2008 at 12:12 pm
Hi Carly,
i liked your note to Bruce. Sometimes after a lot of abuse you do have to cut your losses and walk away.
My ex-wife became depressed and was on anti-depressants and even though i supported her 100% through the whole ordeal she continued to mistreat me, found someone else and left me.
Sometimes it scares me that if she hadn’t left me i still would probably be with her and still being emotionally abused by her too. Through family , friends, counseling and my own determination i have regained my self-respect and will never let anyone ever take away my self-respect again although i will still be very supportive to my partner.
Thanks for letting me vent and have a great weekend:)
Carly’s Note: Well put. I’m glad it all worked out for you in the end. Self-respect truly is invaluable.
May 9th, 2008 at 1:07 pm
My girlfriend just told me that I’m not whipped and I’d better not say I am.
pssssst…… please send help!
Carly’s Note: LOL! At least I think you’re kidding. Hmmm… Maybe I’ll call in the guys from Special Victims Unit just in case.
May 9th, 2008 at 2:51 pm
Painting the garage and shutters a shade of Barney purple…or even *gasp* fuscia. I have seen both, and know full well, they were PMS induced decisions, promptly responded to with a “yes dear” by the XY of the relationship.
And while yes holding your purse is definitely helpful, you have to think it’s pretty demeaning for a guy. Take it in the change room with you for goodness sake, who holds it for you when you go shopping alone?
Lee Ann
Carly’s Note: I guess that’s a fair question.
May 10th, 2008 at 1:49 pm
Actually Carly, I think it’s branding of sorts so that while you’re out of sight, he can’t be Mr. Player - he’s a marked man. If he’s holding your purse, he has about as much chance of trying to pick up chicks while cruising in a mini-van. Not gonna happen!
Billy - lol…too funny.
Lee Ann
Carly’s Note: But he’d be a good man to poach - he does what you tell him to!
May 12th, 2008 at 10:45 pm
Signs a guy is whipped…
- He’s in a drapery store on a Saturday morning. Heck, he’s in a drapery store, PERIOD.
- He’s looking at minivans at the Auto Show. Extra whip points if he’s the one minding the stroller while the wife takes her turn behind the wheel.
- He panics if he can’t find his cell phone.
- Herbal supplements have replaced all other herbs, if you know what I mean…
- He has a cat. And if he’s not married and has a cat, it still counts because the cat’s the one doing the whipping.
- The phrase, “A cigar? oooooooooh…..” with a smirk and a quick shake of the head followed by that inhaling-through-clenched-teeth noise.
- He even knows where a “botanical garden” is.
- That “all-you-can-eat place with the waffles and omelet bar” you’d go to with your folks on special occasions like Mother’s Day, he now calls “brunch.”
- He’s “outgrown” all his single friends, and would hang out with her friends, if she ever kept any for longer than 3 months at a stretch.
- He talks about “Desperate Housewives” without mentioning Eva Longoria’s body. Make that - he even knows that there are other people on “Desperate Housewives”.
- He boasts about having snuck in a viewing of “Latin Lover” while someone went to bed early.
- When asked, “do you want a beer?” he looks at his watch.
- He doesn’t realize it, but all of his friends have nicknamed his wife “The Kommandant”.
Carly’s Note: All valid. Thanks for the laugh!!!!
May 19th, 2008 at 3:34 pm
ROFL!!! All of those sound too much like my friend Grant. He even admitted to it.
Carly’s Note: And knowing is half the battle - isn’t that what G.I. Joe said?