Comments on: How To Tell If A Guy Is Whipped

By: Mike P.

Mike P. — Mon, 19 May 2008 21:34:18 +0000

ROFL!!! All of those sound too much like my friend Grant. He even admitted to it.

Carly’s Note: And knowing is half the battle - isn’t that what G.I. Joe said?

By: Julio

Julio — Tue, 13 May 2008 04:45:39 +0000

Signs a guy is whipped…
- He’s in a drapery store on a Saturday morning. Heck, he’s in a drapery store, PERIOD.
- He’s looking at minivans at the Auto Show. Extra whip points if he’s the one minding the stroller while the wife takes her turn behind the wheel.
- He panics if he can’t find his cell phone.
- Herbal supplements have replaced all other herbs, if you know what I mean…
- He has a cat. And if he’s not married and has a cat, it still counts because the cat’s the one doing the whipping.
- The phrase, “A cigar? oooooooooh…..” with a smirk and a quick shake of the head followed by that inhaling-through-clenched-teeth noise.
- He even knows where a “botanical garden” is.
- That “all-you-can-eat place with the waffles and omelet bar” you’d go to with your folks on special occasions like Mother’s Day, he now calls “brunch.”
- He’s “outgrown” all his single friends, and would hang out with her friends, if she ever kept any for longer than 3 months at a stretch.
- He talks about “Desperate Housewives” without mentioning Eva Longoria’s body. Make that - he even knows that there are other people on “Desperate Housewives”.
- He boasts about having snuck in a viewing of “Latin Lover” while someone went to bed early.
- When asked, “do you want a beer?” he looks at his watch.
- He doesn’t realize it, but all of his friends have nicknamed his wife “The Kommandant”.

Carly’s Note: All valid. Thanks for the laugh!!!!

By: Lee Ann

Lee Ann — Sat, 10 May 2008 19:49:05 +0000

Actually Carly, I think it’s branding of sorts so that while you’re out of sight, he can’t be Mr. Player - he’s a marked man. If he’s holding your purse, he has about as much chance of trying to pick up chicks while cruising in a mini-van. Not gonna happen!
Billy - lol…too funny.
Lee Ann

Carly’s Note: But he’d be a good man to poach - he does what you tell him to!

By: Lee Ann

Lee Ann — Fri, 09 May 2008 20:51:42 +0000

Painting the garage and shutters a shade of Barney purple…or even *gasp* fuscia. I have seen both, and know full well, they were PMS induced decisions, promptly responded to with a “yes dear” by the XY of the relationship.
And while yes holding your purse is definitely helpful, you have to think it’s pretty demeaning for a guy. Take it in the change room with you for goodness sake, who holds it for you when you go shopping alone?
Lee Ann

Carly’s Note: I guess that’s a fair question.

By: Billy

Billy — Fri, 09 May 2008 19:07:50 +0000

My girlfriend just told me that I’m not whipped and I’d better not say I am.
pssssst…… please send help!

Carly’s Note: LOL! At least I think you’re kidding. Hmmm… Maybe I’ll call in the guys from Special Victims Unit just in case.

By: Dave

Dave — Fri, 09 May 2008 18:12:26 +0000

Hi Carly,
i liked your note to Bruce. Sometimes after a lot of abuse you do have to cut your losses and walk away.
My ex-wife became depressed and was on anti-depressants and even though i supported her 100% through the whole ordeal she continued to mistreat me, found someone else and left me.
Sometimes it scares me that if she hadn’t left me i still would probably be with her and still being emotionally abused by her too. Through family , friends, counseling and my own determination i have regained my self-respect and will never let anyone ever take away my self-respect again although i will still be very supportive to my partner.
Thanks for letting me vent and have a great weekend:)

Carly’s Note: Well put. I’m glad it all worked out for you in the end. Self-respect truly is invaluable.

By: Bruce

Bruce — Fri, 09 May 2008 16:35:22 +0000

I notice that nobody wants to comment Carly. I suppose that speaks volumes.
Personally I think the best controller of all is the alcoholic. Just think… living with one, you get accused of saying things that you’ve never even thought of and regardless of what you do or say, you always end up being in the wrong anyway.
So the question is… do you stop being a wimp and just walk away, or do you show compassion? I can assure you; sometimes it takes more strength to be a wimp, than not be.
Funny isn’t it… but you never know when you might need a wimp.

Carly’s Note: I can’t speak to your experience, but I think it does come to a point where - for your own sanity - you need to insist that the other person seek help or you’re going to leave. It’s important to have compassion and to support your partner, yes, but you shouldn’t have to live with abuse.

By: TabmoW

TabmoW — Fri, 09 May 2008 13:34:15 +0000

You would be at home watching the seventh game of the cup finals, if her cat mittens did not have a majour hair ball incident and have to go to the vet at how much an hour :S

Carly’s Note: Hmm, hypothetically speaking, of course.

By: Dave

Dave — Fri, 09 May 2008 12:34:30 +0000

Hi Carly,
That list is a bit scary because i do recognize some things i used to do when i was still married so yeah i was “whipped”.
I do admit that my friends would not ask us to socialize with them on a regular basis because my ex was very particular about whom she liked or disliked.
Don’t you feel though that there has to be a balance between spending quality time as a couple but still socializing with your old friends too? Have you ever had an ex who was controlling, needy or jealous?
One of the most “whipped” guys i know is my brother-in-law. he’s been married to my sister for over 30 years and she just has to flash him a dirty look and he jumps to attention. I think once their kids finish university he’s outta there.
Anyways i am glad to say that i have more confidence and self-esteem now and am not only enjoying dating again but also knowing and getting exactly what i want in a relationship now too.
Have a great weekend Carly and don’t forget Mother’s Day.

Carly’s Note: Sounds like you’re in a good place. I absolutely agree about finding a balance betweem couple time, time with other couples, and time with your friends that doesn’t involve your partner. A little independence is healthy and keeps your relationship fresh. As for Mother’s Day, my mom and grandmother are out-of-province, so my cards were in the mail last week. I will definitely follow up with a phone call on Sunday, though.

By: Louie

Louie — Fri, 09 May 2008 04:24:28 +0000

Here’s what else I’d add to this list:
She asks you to buy feminine hygiene products for her.
She makes you cook dinner and clean up afterwards with no promise of sex later.
You need to call her in advance if you’re bringing friends over.

Carly’s Note: Louie! I hope you’re not telling me it’s a woman’s responsibility to cook and clean up after a man unless she’s putting out later that night.